There's a stage in one's life when he begins to know that everything that happens has a reason. These reasons are usually difficult to know or comprehend. But it unfolds as time goes. Any situation has a mark of God's present in it. You must try to find out why it happened, so that you can use the the situation to open a new page in your life. It might be negative or positive but it could be a total transformation in your life. The result can be bad or good depending how you transform it.Since you can only transform what you know then my advice is that try to know it through prayers and meditation.
Remember another medium in which God speaks to us is in our everyday big and small circumstances . The circumstances can be pleasant or disgusting. That is why we need the presence of the almighty being to help us in this transformation